One Day at a time with my traumatized children

Written by Salome Akwi

These few weeks have taught me other things I never knew about my kids; from the moment they came back to me, it was like I had never really been with them. They were totally different from the last time we were together. I pondered on how to deal with them, because their behavior was over the roof; after closely examining them, it brought me to the realization that my children after all may be traumatized following the confusion they went through with different parenting skills. It hit me so hard that I have decided to seek a different approach that will revert to sanity. All the signs are shouting out for me to do something about it.

It is said, “When two elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers.” Many times, the repercussions are seen too late, that nothing can be done. I would not want my children to view me as the aggressor as I strive to impart discipline using the wrong approach. I have embarked on getting information that will help me deal with them appropriately.

I am happy that so far it is working, at least I see a change and I am glad about it. It is a rough journey but deep inside I feel joy and unexplainable satisfaction.     

Challenges come in different forms and dealing with them sometimes requires creativity that is out of this world. Some things that may seem simple are actually the most difficult to handle but, who says they can’t be handled? That’s why in all these, I will stick to my Lord like Glue because he alone can see me through.

PHOTO by Salome Akwi An artistic presentation  always does
me good when i need o clear my head.

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Do good to others

Written by Salome Akwi

“Do unto others what you want them to do for you” Luke 6:31  As simple as it may seem, many people don’t grasp the concept and let pride, arrogance, ignorance, greed etc over shadow the way they handle others. The life cycle is the same for everyone, even if you are born with a silver spoon in your mouth; we all face the same challenges of fear, courage, failure, grief, ambition etc.

If you are a Boss, how professionally do you treat your employees? If you have a maid at home, how humanely do you treat her? If you are Married, how affectionate are you with your spouse? If you are a Businessman/woman, how candid are you with your customers? If you are a Stepmother/Stepfather, how compassionate are you with another Woman’s/Man’s child?

In all these scenarios, if you are ruthless, uncompromising, voracious, demining to your subordinates, then remember that you may find yourself at one point in your life passing through the hands of those very people you mistreated or under looked. If you show kindness, then you will definitely get it where ever you go and you will never get stranded in your life.

Before you verbally or physically abuse someone, cheat your business partner/customers undermine your employees, grab someone else’s land/property/spouse/child/business etc, always remember that someone else will do it to you double. Same as when you treat others right, you will also get double blessings. So, where do you fit?

PHOTO by Salome Akwi. Just as attractive as this flower looks, is the same way
people should be attracted to you; no wonder it caught my eye.

It does not require you to be a rocket scientist  to treat people well but it is a personal decision to adopt to treating someone else right. Above all, it is fulfilling.

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Forget about the closed doors

Written by Salome Akwi

Every day in our lives, doors are shut behind us. Many times we waste time trying to reopen them not knowing that nothing will ever change and that you may be plunging yourself deeper in to the ravaging sea.

Many of us spend time crying over the past and pondering on what would have been; no matter how marvelous you imagine things would be, they will never change anything in your life. Whatever door was shut in your life e.g. Job, Friend, business deal, marriage etc. It was never meant for you.

When you start focusing on what is in front of you, and forget those things that you thought made your world, you will realize sooner that they were instead retarding your progress.  You start to see doors opening and discover that you have untapped potential just waiting to be utilized. Quickly, you will see your world transformed to greater heights that you wouldn’t have reached while you were in your past life.

It is said, “Every dark cloud has a silver lining”. That is true, all you have to do is find your silver lining and when you do, all the darkness will fade away instantly.

PHOTO by Salome Akwi It is until you observe keenly that you see a water duck swimming
in a distance enjoying itself.

So where do you see yourself in all these? Just remember that God has a better plan for you and that he promised to make your life BRAND NEW! so go and embrace it now!

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Let it be!

Written by Salome Akwi

When I was younger, I used to be bothered by simple little things which I could do nothing about by the end of the day like a rainy morning, traffic jam, people’s obnoxiousness etc. But now life has taught me many things among which deals with that issue; I have learnt to ignore those voices that add no value to me. I stopped complaining about things that nature has purposed even when they squeeze the air out of me. I have learnt to Let it be!

So what, if somebody tells you he/she doesn’t need your friendship anymore? It is their loss because they didn’t see the Treasure in you. So what, if your boss doesn’t appreciate your every effort you put in their company? You can have your own company. So what, if your business fails? You can start another one. So what, if you are rejected by your spouse and thrown out like a dog? You can get another better spouse. So what, if you have lost everything? Forget about them, you will get better things.   

YOU still have LIFE, and that is the most Important thing. Your next move can bury all that pain if you choose to let it be and move on without looking back. Fresh Starts are always the best because you think clearly; know that you are a person of Worth and you are in-charge of your own destiny. 

Above all, always remember that there is a God who strengthens you…all you have to do is put your Trust in him. 

PHOTO by Salome Akwi Even in maturity, there is another bud sprouting within
this flower, more vibrant and stretching out to the sunlight.

That is the definition of life; even in your situation there is always a new opportunity that you need to explore, tell yourself that you can do it, that you can rise above the heights! Let God be your Guide!

Enjoy with me!!