Fight the good fight!

Written by 

Salome Akwi

I walked into a salon and as I waited for my turn, one client was busy on Facebook having what seemed like a fight with another person. She was reading loud the responses of the other person and kept asking the Hair dresser what she should reply. I couldn’t help realizing that the other person was a lady who seemed to be going out with someone’s Husband. The response of the other lady was confident and aware that she was the second and that she knew all about the first wife. Hmmmmm???

One response caught me “Stop fighting me, my husband told me everything…Find what to do!”

This lady responded “I’m not fighting, just wondering how you called him your husband…I don’t remember a marriage ceremony after all it seems I am your sister in-law.’

Ooh! So she isn’t the first wife? Then who is she and why is she…? I wondered to myself. Then another lady walked in and she was briefed quickly of what transpired. It so happened that this was the “First wife” and these seemed to be sisters/friends helping her fight. “First Wife” talks about how she was praying and saw a vision of her husband coming back home kneeling before her. In my head am thinking “Alas some sense is now at play” I am wondering how about the husband, is he “Innocent”?

After a short while a car pulls over and an elderly woman steps out and walks into the salon. They called her “Mummy” and they knelt and greeted her with respect. “First Wife” and “Mummy” share a private conversation in low tones for about 5 minutes. “Mummy” too has come to be styled up. “Sister in-law” leaves the chair for “Mummy”. Hair dresser asks “Mummy” if “First Wife” has told her what is happening. “Mummy” says ‘yes a little’ but she seems not keen to indulge and concentrates on her face. It threatens to rain and I get an excuse to run home to remove my clothes from the wire.

When I returned after about one hour or so, these ladies where still at it even in the absence of “Sister in-law" and “Mummy” It has taken another turn “Second Wife” has blocked all of them and has deleted all the Facebook posts shared. WHOAH! The fight is on. Now “Hair dresser” advises “First wife” to call another lady who seems not to have entered the brawl yet to post on "Second Wife's" wall. It seems like they are rounding up sisters and friends to take part in bringing down “Second Wife” they know all about her even the foundation she owns or heads??

To my amazement “First Wife” obeys every suggestion “Hair Dresser” gives. In my mind I am wondering I thought she is already down on her knees! “Hair dresser further suggests “Let’s post on Husband’s Facebook wall…let’s post a picture of the two of them together. Let him know that we know!  In fact we shall even send it to Beat FM and show her that she can’t stop us”

OMG??? How far are these ladies ready to go… “First Wife” is in agreement of everything. My head is screaming Lady Stop it! Stop It! When my hair gets down I take courage and tell her.

“Lady I don’t know the whole story BUT stop fighting that fight! Women like us fight on our knees, we cry out to God and he fights for us! You said you are Praying to God…Leave it to God he knows best! You are listening to voices around you but by the end of the day it is you and your Husband not others! What you are doing is not right… Just continue praying, God will see you through!” I blurted out without hesitation.

“Yes you are right…see my knees are now black, I am praying Mary will see me through!” she responds to me.

“I am talking from experience, fighting like that will not solve anything…JUST LEAVE IT TO GOD!!” and I walked out of the salon.

I felt an abnormal relief in my heart. I didn’t care what would be said behind my back once I left. Is this how so called “Christian women” fight? Is this how Hannah fought? Is this how Esther became Queen? Is this how Ruth landed on Boaz? Is this how Leah stayed in a Loveless Marriage yet from her came a linage of Jesus?

It is very painful, I understand firsthand how much; but GOD knows Best. Everywhere I turn women are crying over the same thing, women are killing each other over men, indulging in Witchcraft over men, mistreating innocent children over men etc. REALLY? As Believing Christian women have we not been taught that God is the giver of everything, that we should cast our burden onto Jesus?

God can turn any situation around, and he assures us that the battle is his…all you have to do is give your battles to him Period! Be Blessed You all!

Enjoy with me!!!