Written by
Salome Akwi
I
walked into a salon and as I waited for my turn, one client was busy on Facebook having what seemed like a fight with another person. She was reading loud the
responses of the other person and kept asking the Hair dresser what she should
reply. I couldn’t help realizing that the other person was a lady who seemed to
be going out with someone’s Husband. The response of the other lady was confident
and aware that she was the second and that she knew all about the first wife. Hmmmmm???
One
response caught me “Stop fighting me, my
husband told me everything…Find what to do!”
This
lady responded “I’m not fighting, just
wondering how you called him your husband…I don’t remember a marriage ceremony
after all it seems I am your sister in-law.’
Ooh!
So she isn’t the first wife? Then who is she and why is she…? I wondered to
myself. Then another lady walked in and she was briefed quickly of what
transpired. It so happened that this was the “First wife” and these seemed to
be sisters/friends helping her fight. “First Wife” talks about how she was
praying and saw a vision of her husband coming back home kneeling before her. In
my head am thinking “Alas some sense is now
at play” I am wondering how about the husband, is he “Innocent”?
After
a short while a car pulls over and an elderly woman steps out and walks into
the salon. They called her “Mummy” and they knelt and greeted her with respect.
“First Wife” and “Mummy” share a private conversation in low tones for about
5 minutes. “Mummy” too has come to be styled up. “Sister in-law” leaves the
chair for “Mummy”. Hair dresser asks “Mummy” if “First Wife” has told her what
is happening. “Mummy” says ‘yes a little’ but she seems not keen to indulge and
concentrates on her face. It threatens to rain and I get an excuse to run home
to remove my clothes from the wire.
When
I returned after about one hour or so, these ladies where still at it even in
the absence of “Sister in-law" and “Mummy” It has taken another turn “Second
Wife” has blocked all of them and has deleted all the Facebook posts shared. WHOAH! The fight
is on. Now “Hair dresser” advises “First wife” to call another lady who seems not to have entered the brawl yet to post on "Second Wife's" wall. It seems like they are rounding up sisters and
friends to take part in bringing down “Second Wife” they know all about her
even the foundation she owns or heads??
To
my amazement “First Wife” obeys every suggestion “Hair Dresser” gives. In my
mind I am wondering I thought she is already down on her knees! “Hair dresser
further suggests “Let’s post on Husband’s
Facebook wall…let’s post a picture of the two of them together. Let him know
that we know! In fact we shall even send
it to Beat FM and show her that she can’t stop us”
OMG???
How far are these ladies ready to go… “First Wife” is in agreement of
everything. My head is screaming Lady Stop it! Stop It! When my hair gets down I
take courage and tell her.
“Lady
I don’t know the whole story BUT stop fighting that fight! Women like us fight
on our knees, we cry out to God and he fights for us! You said you are Praying
to God…Leave it to God he knows best! You are listening to voices around you
but by the end of the day it is you and your Husband not others! What you are
doing is not right… Just continue praying, God will see you through!” I
blurted out without hesitation.
“Yes
you are right…see my knees are now black, I am praying Mary will see me
through!” she responds to me.
“I
am talking from experience, fighting like that will not solve anything…JUST
LEAVE IT TO GOD!!” and I walked out of the salon.
I
felt an abnormal relief in my heart. I didn’t care what would be said behind my
back once I left. Is this how so called “Christian women” fight? Is this how
Hannah fought? Is this how Esther became Queen? Is this how Ruth landed on
Boaz? Is this how Leah stayed in a Loveless Marriage yet from her came a linage
of Jesus?
It
is very painful, I understand firsthand how much; but GOD knows Best. Everywhere
I turn women are crying over the same thing, women are killing each other over
men, indulging in Witchcraft over men, mistreating innocent children over men
etc. REALLY? As Believing Christian women have we not been taught that God is
the giver of everything, that we should cast our burden onto Jesus?
God
can turn any situation around, and he assures us that the battle is his…all you
have to do is give your battles to him Period! Be Blessed You all!
Enjoy with me!!!
